*Erica, a 33 years old stunningly beautiful woman, is a divorcee with a daughter staying with her at a condominium she bought after she divorced her ex-husband, *Jeremy some time 2 years ago. She was attractive enough in her younger years that many fell helplessly in love with her but who would have guessed that she would become a divorcee? 

Erica, who studied as a chemist, worked in Brisbane, Australia way back in the year 2001, She left Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia of a terrible unexpected heart break, where her long-time lover left her for another woman, leaving her with sore and shattered heart, forcing her to leave the country and start anew. Of course starting a new life there in Brisbane was never an obstacle for her as she had both looks and brains. She met Jeremy there who eventually became her husband in just a short 1½ years. Jeremy loved and trusted her with all his heart but little did he know that Erica agreed to marry him out of her reason to have her own baby before age 30! Did she not have loved Jeremy deep enough to marry him? Now you may have dropped your jaws by now, but read on, while she was pregnant, she met a college friend, Brandon* who had been taking care of her more than Jeremy did. Even the hospital nurses thought Brandon was her husband! Well, obviously she finds herself in love with Brandon and that he was there all the time for her when she needed someone. Was this the reason for her divorce? 

If we analyze in detail, Erica would most probably have suffered from a severe case of heartbreak which triggered her anger, resulting in self importance and trying everything she could to get what she wanted in order to please herself. Her decision to marry Jeremy was obviously nothing to do with love or any happily ever after family, let alone bearing him a child. However, was she ever happy after her long time lover left her in the first place? Has anyone ever thought of how and what she went through to get her life back? Is a divorce really what she wanted, considering the perception others would have placed upon her, how her mother strongly disagrees with her decision and not wanting to have her back in her house, how her friends thought of her as an indecent woman? She has no other means to prolong her life except to preserve her selfishness in a relationship and to pursue her wants and needs. Is she to be blamed? If we start fingers pointing, I believe we couldn’t even stop! I would have blamed her long time heartthrob for leaving her, you could have blamed her for being unfaithful some could have blamed Brandon but who’s the right person to blame? 

To conclude, Erica was once a beautiful & innocent but heartbroken girl, who strived to pursue her life with all she wanted, losing faith in love and manipulating all she has to reach her goal in a relationship. She met Jeremy who could give her all she wanted but was not who she could love. When Brandon came into the picture and she was sure she found her love life once again, she had to leave Jeremy to start a ‘happily ever after’ life.
 

My grandpa once told me that in the journey of love, not everyone sleeps on a bed of roses. Some has to go through an extremely tough time to be with THE ONE.

He told me a story,

“Once there was a show girl who was murdered and her body was left by the seaside. Mr A walked by, spit on the body and left. Then Mr B walked by and took off his jacket to cover her body & face and left. Finally, Mr C walked by and took the body to a cemetery and buried her with flowers and prayed for her.” Guess what grandpa said after that? He continued, “This show girl reincarnated as a woman again in this life, will have a man who treated her badly (Mr A), followed by another man who treated her well but the relationship ends after awhile (Mr B) and finally she will be with a man and they both lived together happily and lovingly until the end of their lives (Mr C).”

Believe me? Try to apply this ‘grandpa philosophy’ into your own relationship. If you have failed in one or two, please do not live in despair, because your Mr C has yet to come into the picture. He may appear anytime from now. This is called LOVE FATE.

*Names are changed for privacy purposes

Article Contributed by Vivienne Jee